Saturday, October 8, 2016

Getting Well: Are you ready for love again?

It is no secret that roughly 50% of all marriages in this country end in divorce. And divorce rates for second marriages are even higher. The latter has, in part, been attributed to rebound dating which has been known to prevent you from healing emotionally.

It is important to take some time to reconnect with yourself, do some self-examination, and discover what you want and need out of life. Doing this work may help you make better choices in your next relationship. Sounds reasonable, right? You are not the same person you were 5, 10, or even 20 years ago. It stands to reason that your potential mate should support who you are today and who you strive to be in the future.

What you may not have considered, however, are the other areas of your life that need some time and attention. Divorce can be ugly and the process can be long and arduous. Consider the tension, fighting, financial stress, custody battles, relocation, and interruption of daily routines. The dissolution of a union that you thought would last well into "happily-ever-after" has some alarming effects on your overall health and wellness.

According to an article that appears in Prevention Magazine, "8 Surprising Ways Divorce Affects Your Health", you might experience some or all of the following:

1) Anxiety
2) Drastic Weight Change
3) Metabolic Syndrome
4) Depression
5) Cardiovascular Disease
6) Substance Abuse
7) Insomnia
8) Chronic Health Problems and Mobility Issues

Let me be frank. Divorce can send you straight up out of your right mind. The goal here is to find some balance. Give yourself permission to mourn the loss. See your doctor and address any health issues you may have. Eat well, hydrate, exercise, and get good sleep. Engage in activities that you enjoy. Be social. Breathe. Meditate. Pray. Atone. Set new goals for yourself.

Whatever you do, take your time and take care of yourself. Your happiness depends on it!

Be good to yourself! More next time...

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Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Do you want to win?

Winners don't quit. They find ways to challenge themselves constantly. Winners attack their weaknesses rather than cower and make excuses. They fight through adversity and seek to solve their problems.
They never underestimate their opponents and they are their own worst critics. These people tap into their God-power. They embrace failure as part of the learning process. They focus on being better than yesterday.
If you are a winner, you will want winners in your inner circle. If you want to be a winner, you will do the same. The catch is that you must be ready to do the work. To win, you must be willing to change. You must be willing to let go of what was, accept what is, and be open to whatever will be.
So if you are not ready to be challenged and improve yourself, leave these folk alone. Don't invite them into your average life. They won't stay long. Rather, sit back and watch. Take good notes. And AIM LOWER.

Be good to yourself! More next time...

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

2013: The Year of Progress

I have declared 2013 as "The Year of Progress" instead of making a resolution this year. Sure, I have set some lofty goals for myself on both a personal and professional level, but every goal is contingent upon completion of a previous one. I have a plan to get from point A, to point B, etc.

What's the point of having a plan? Consider that thousands and thousands of people vow to lose weight and get in shape every year. By March, they have fallen back into the same old habits. Why? In large part, this is due to a lack of measurable, attainable, time-driven goals. We need a plan containing specific criteria in order to hold ourselves accountable. Let's consider a different approach:

What's the ultimate goal? To get healthy. (Great! But, vague.)

WHY? My current lifestyle will make me sick and I have a family history of cancer, heart disease, diabetes, etc. Or, I want more energy to excel at work and keep up with my children. Or, being fit helps me to manage stress. Or, I want to reverse the effects of aging. (Knowing your "WHY?" is the most important thing!)

What are the necessary components to the plan? Visit the doctor for a complete physical, find 3 forms of exercise that are enjoyable and easy to work into the schedule, change the diet. (Better, but let's be more specific.)

Which specific goals must be achieved?  Lose 3 pounds per month over 12 months totaling 36 pounds, exercise a minimum of 3 days per week for 30-45 minutes each session, weigh-in once per week, eliminate 3 bad foods from my diet and 1 bad habit (like smoking) every month, drink 8-10 glasses of water daily, sleep a minimum of  8 hours each night. (Now, we're getting somewhere. Let's make it time-sensitive.)

When must all of these things happen? Doctor visit by January 15, 2013 and first weigh-in, start exercising January 20th, make dietary changes today, increase water intake today, lose 3 pounds by February 20th, shop for new clothes quarterly (assign dates) including new workout gear if goals are met, set new goals if you fall short monthly, revisit your "WHY?" statement.

What is the penalty for not staying the course? Revisit your "WHY?" statement. Write it down and post in the places where you are most tempted to fall off the bandwagon.

Best wishes and much success to you all in the coming months! Be good to yourself! More next time...